Money Magic Podcast

Episode 61: The link between the mother wound, the sibling wound and money

This podcast is a live class I did on Facebook, talking about the sibling wound and how it can play out within families and how that then affects finances.

Sibling rivalry is a natural phenomenon that happens in many families, especially when children take on a deputy parenting role. Deputy parent siblings are those children who take on the "parent" role in their family when one parent is absent from the home or if there is only one parent in the home. This can lead to sibling codependency where they can depend on the breadwinner sibling for both financial and emotional support which can create resentment, tension, and rivalry when the relationship changes.

In this podcast I look at the vow of loyalty in families and how the family dynamics are altered by a child playing a parent role.

Most of us didn’t have a perfect childhood. Learn how to spot your vows of loyalty and mother wounds, do the healing work, and put things right on the ancestral plane. 

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During this episode, you will learn about:

[00:01] Introduction into the show 

[02:45] Today’s topic; Mother wounds, sibling wound, and rivalry 

[07:14] Vangile personal experience with her mom and sibling 

[15:21] Where tension and the resentment between siblings originates

[26:00] What happens to the breadwinner siblings' inner child 

[28:14] Experimenting and taking risks to grow financially 

[34:12] Sibling with parenting role challenges and resentments

[38:49] Siblings' co-dependence and money wounds 

[43:14] Vow of loyalty between children and parents

[50:32] Two types of meditation to release vows of meditation 

[52:13] Mother wounds and how to spot subtle mother wounds 

[58:53] How mother wounds lead to sibling rivalry 

[01:05:26] Money magic healing works for vows of loyalty and mother wounds 

[01:09:52] How to sign in for the money magic healing course 

[01:12:58] Ending the show and call to actions

Notable Quotes 

• Most breadwinner siblings didn’t get to be a child, and the idea of playing and having fun even around money is always foreign.
• A huge way to grow and stand financially is taking some risks.
• Children need parenting; children cannot raise children.
• Mother wounds are not only from abusive mothers; we can have them simply because we didn't receive parenting from our mothers
• Vows can feel like Stockholm syndrome. 
• The mother wound can give rise to the sibling wound, which can lead to deep sibling rivalry in a family.
• Healing is making things right on the ancestral plane
• Perfectionism comes from a not good enough wounding 

Let’s Connect

Vangile Makwakwa

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/

Episode 60: Surrendering to your inner voice & becoming debt free

In today’s podcast episode I share a live class I did a while back on the importance of knowing what you want.

I did this live class before the pandemic and shared some of my experiences about Vietnam and Chiang Mai.

Being free from debt doesn't mean that you're financially free, but it's a step in the right direction. The key to being financially free is taking the time to really think about what you want and then creating a plan that will help you achieve it. Be vulnerable enough with yourself to know your true desires, and don’t be afraid of doing the numbers or even asking the universe or your higher power for what you want. It will provide you with opportunities to help you make your desires a reality. 

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During this episode, you will learn about:

[02:02] Introduction into the show 

[02:02] Vangile intuition to go to Chiang Mai from Vietnam 

[08:53] Meeting with Keidra and how this solved their retreat puzzle 

[09:47] How going to Chiang Mai helped Vangile figure out how to negotiate her deals 

[11:42] Listening to your inner voice and surrendering to it

[14:44] Personal finance; doing the numbers 

[16:10] Being financially free and financing your dream life

[19:34] Creating a concrete plan and taking control of your finances

[21:54] Weekly goal setting worksheets; run the numbers 

[23:38] Be vulnerable enough with yourself to know what you want

[24:00] Ending the show and call to actions

Notable Quotes 

• Personal finance is very holistic, and we take a holistic approach to it.
• Being debt-free doesn't mean being financially free
• Being financially free means that even when you don't work, you’re still making an income
• There are so many ways for you to reach your goals, but you can't reach a goal that you don't know you are trying to reach 
• Knowing what you want is the first step to asking for more and doing the practical side of things.

Let’s Connect

Vangile Makwakwa

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/

Episode 59: Increase Your Income by Aligning with Your Core Values

In this week’s podcast episode I do a live class talking about how to use your resources to create a consistent stream of income.  

Misalignment with your core values might be causing havoc in everything you do in your life. You might be making money, but what about your well being, health and relationships? The further we go out of our alignment, the more our lives tend to suffer. Spending and creating income that is in alignment with our values and our resources is what creates ease.

Your values are your guiding light, and they are the key not just to how you spend money but also to how you make money.

 

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During this episode, you will learn about:

[02:03] Introduction into the show 

[05:48] Today’s topic: increasing your income at ease

[06:57] Lessons from Jane’s story and her desire to increase her income

[08:51] Anchoring and aligning yourself in your core values

[11:57] Building your relationships and support system 

[12:30] Vangile experience looking for a constant paycheck 

[17:06] The irony; how abiding by her values enabled her to make a living 

[20:34] The misconceptions that we have around burnout In our current lifestyles 

[21:10] Spending and creating income that is in alignment with our values

[22:45] Unlock your inner wisdom with the wealthy money magic courses 

[25:30] Ending the show and call to action 

Notable Quotes 

• Your values are your guiding light when everything goes haywire 
• Your values are the key not just to how you spend money but also to how you make money.
• When something is in alignment with your values, it is easy to understand your WHY
• Burnout comes from doing something that is not in alignment with your soul, as your spirit has to do so much work to keep you going. 

Let’s Connect

Vangile Makwakwa

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/

 

Episode 58: The difference between healing and remaining positive at all times

Healing isn't always sexy. It’s about going to the dark spaces within ourselves and being able to sit with them, accept them and find peace with them. 

 

Positive affirmations might work for some people, but with unhealed trauma, they are likely to do more harm than good. Healing from trauma is key. It will allow you to be fully present and focused at the moment, and this is when the true magic happens. Unresolved trauma can keep us in a trauma loop, which can prevent us from seeing the opportunities around us.

 

This week's episode is from a live class I did a few months ago. In this episode I share what you need to know about positive affirmation vs healing. If you have been feeling like you can't manifest or affirmations and vision boards don't work for you, then this episode may help shed light on what's happening. 

 

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During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[00:14] Introduction into the show

[04:39] Today’s topic: Positive thinking vs healing

[05:42] Why positive affirmations might not work for you

[06:41] Generational trauma and why we need to address and resolve it

[09:48] Holding space for yourself and giving way to healing  

[14:51] Breaking the emotional attachment to see the pain differently

[17:33] Soul retrieval work, and being aware of the triggers

[19:12] The beauty of inner healing and the magic that happens

[22:51] Letting go and tapping into your inner wisdom

[26:47] When the affirmations and visualizations work better

[28:45] Resources now available on YouTube and Facebook for you  

[29:44] Ending the show and call to actions

 

Notable Quotes

• Acknowledging and healing your trauma is what lightens the burden so you can focus on future goals.
• True magic happens when you are fully present and focused on the present.
• The deeper the trauma, the less likely the affirmations are going to work, and they can do more damage than good
• Our unresolved trauma keeps us in a trauma loop, which can prevent us from seeing opportunities around us.

 

Let’s Connect

 

Vangile Makwakwa

 

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa 

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa 

 

Episode 57: Why Budgets Don’t Work

In this week’s episode of the #MoneyMagic podcast, I talk about why budgets don't work.

If you’re unable to minimize your spending despite doing everything that budgeting calls for, it’s not your fault, and you’re not alone. The truth is that budgets don’t work for most people and yet we keep getting taught to budget and when we fail to stick to a budget we feel ashamed, like there’s something wrong with us.

We're taught that we need self-discipline even when we know that it’s not working for us. Self-discipline and budgeting are all about willpower, and will power is a limited resource. We all get tired of constantly making decisions in a budgeting culture, and when this happens, our willpower runs dry. Your willpower is like a gatekeeper. Every time you’ve to stop yourself from spending physically, your willpower and decision faculties are eroded, resulting in financial decision-making fatigue. 

Join the conversation with me, your host Vangile Makwakwa as I share a live class, “Why budgeting doesn’t work.” 

 

I have been there, tried budgeting (in different countries) to improve my money spending habits and later got into a “give up game” to improve my finances and pay off my debts with no success. This never worked out for me despite depriving myself and giving up my favorite foods, restaurants, and transport to save more money. Instead, things were getting worse. Find out what works in changing spending habits and the alternative to a traditional budget.

 

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During this episode, you will learn about;

[02:03] Introduction into the episode

[04:39] Today’s topic: Why budget doesn’t work

[05:02] “You don’t have a problem in budgeting” My money habits in different countries  

[09:20] “Giving up game” How I tried budgeting to pay off her debts 

[16:23] What I did after discovering budgeting was not working 

[19:30] Behavioral economics: Decision financial fatigue and willpower erosion  

[26:44] Developing your capacity to use willpower by shifting your mindset 

[28:40] How trauma eats away our will power, especially when we’re triggered 

[29:42] Self-deprivation: A budget is not about self-denial  

[36:54] Honoring your wants and doing the inner healing work 

[40:47] Letting go of what you’ve been taught about money 

[45:43] Bleeding money and how we get triggered 

[49:19] What happens when your younger self hijack you in your finances 

[51:12]  Carrying trauma in the body and how if affects us

[54:11] Bank account challenge; Working with the body to integrate trauma in spending. 

[59:56] How to access and register for the bank account challenge

[01:01:39] Answering questions from the #MoneyMagic viewers  

[01:12:05] Ending the show and what to expect in the next Live show 

Notable Quotes 

• We are taught that we need self-discipline even when we know that budgets don’t work
• We’re human, and all sorts of things will interfere with rationality, and we won’t always behave logically
• There is trauma in constantly denying your needs and being logical, and trauma erases our gut instinct 
• Our money set points are directly linked with the vows that we make to our parents 

Let’s Connect

Vangile Makwakwa

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/

 

Episode 56: The Power of Letting Go and Shifting Your Identity

This week on the #MoneyMagic I talk to LiSara (Formerly Lisa Dennen-Young), an anti-racist Leadership and Life coach, musician, and host of Music Medicine Membership. Lisa’s mission is to support the elevation of voices that have been unheard and to support the use of expression as a vehicle of healing, growth, liberation, and collective empowerment.  

 

LiSara was a forensic linguistic interpreter in legal systems, but listening and trusting her own gifts and being willing to shed the identities that held her in linguistic work is what led to her new identity. She started as a love and relation coach and stepped out of smaller boxes to get to where she is today. In this podcast, she explains why stepping into your highest calling and saying yes is allowing yourself to do the things that you never thought you were supposed to do. And this is power! 

 

In the podcast we discuss why when you’re creating, you’re in your place of power, and you’re tapping into universal creation. You’re a manifester, and creating allows you to see how powerful you are, not because you have an expectation but because you’re letting something come out of you. Birthing a new idea on how you are going to meet your money goals and heal ancestral-held trauma is what positions you in power and gives you a new identity.  

 

This is another incredible episode.

 

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During this episode, you will learn about:

[04:30] LiSara’s career backstory and what she does in the coaching space 

[09:56] Identity: the idea behind LiSara's mastermind coaching program 

[18:58] Acknowledging the impact of systems and holding space for others 

[22:15] LiSara’s transition from linguistic interpreter to being a coach

[29:58] Getting into your place of power and shifting your identity 

[33:56] Letting go of struggle identities and connecting with an abundance identity 

[40:23] Shifting your identity and inviting people in your circles in your new life     

[46:47] Holding your expansion and living in your truth 

[47:31] Systemic victimization; internalizing your identity from a disempowering point  

[52:02] Pendulum shift; finding a balance between receiving and creating for yourself  

[01:01:35] The sense of competition around the token spot 

[01:05:05] The phrase: Love is not enough and how it played in LiSara's marriage 

[01:09:03] Shifting your beliefs around money to receive more  

[01:13:05] Living from your gifts and trusting your intuition 

[01:22:38] How to reach out, connect and work with LiSara

 

Notable Quotes 

• We don’t shift ourselves because of people around us but because of what is within us.
• Belonging is being a part of, and being a part is being or acting similar to others.
• In a system that is oppressive, identity is what gets marginalized 
• If you’re asking for support, there is nothing wrong with you, and you are not failing 
• Living from your gift means trusting your intuition and inner energetic awareness

Connect With Us

LiSara

Website: https://www.lisadennenyoung.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisara/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisaraofficial 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisaraofficial/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LisaMarie1005 

Vangile Makwakwa

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/

Episode 55: Designing your financial future for yourself and your descendants

This week I talked to Tsitsi Mutiti, an investment manager and a certified financial coach based in the UK. Tsitsi has been in the financial industry for over 13 years since she moved to the UK from Zimbabwe. She started as a secretary and worked her way up to where she is today. Tsitsi got into coaching because she felt there was a gap between high and low niche wealth individuals that she served despite the financial industry having so much to offer. 

 

In this podcast, we chat about how money habits are all about our mindset around money. Trauma makes you forget about your magic and yourself. Understanding your past about money will help you know how you impact your relationship with money. Money is just a tool, you’re in complete control, and you can point it to whatever you want it to achieve.  You can rewrite your money story, become the author of your financial story, don’t let other people write it for you.  

 

Tsitsi shares how she got into massive debt in the UK; creating a lifestyle that the world told her she should have. However, once she focused on spending money in alignment with her values, the money started flowing. This enabled her to consolidate and pay off her debt in one and a half years instead of six years. Tsitsi is debt-free, and she has been helping people get out of debt and expand their money over the years. 

 

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During this episode, you will learn about;

[03:26] Tsitsi’s career backstory and how she got into the financial industry 

[06:07] Tsitsi’s coaching and what she offers in the financial space 

[11:41] Money traumas that come with how we’re represented 

[16:59] Becoming a designer of your financial future

[18:25] Tsitsi seven steps financial blueprint that she uses in financial coaching  

[20:52] Tsitsi money journey and her first encounter with money at 17 years

[25:32] How Tsitsi got herself in massive debt in the UK    

[31:14] How Tsitsi became debt-free in 11/2 years instead of six years 

[34:37] The blueprint that helped Tsitsi get out of debts, CHOICES 

[39:02] Understanding your money habits and mindset 

[42:52] Evaluating your spending plan and aligning it with your values 

[50:13] How Tsitsi discovered her money traumas and what has changed 

[56:48] Going through breakdown to get to your money breakthrough 

[57:50] Three life lessons that Tsitsi learned from healing from money trauma 

[61:24] A simple exercise to add to your daily routine of financial wellness

[64:17] How to work with Tsitsi and build your wealth oversees 

 

Notable Quotes 

• Money habits are all about our mindset around money.
• No matter how much you cut back, you can’t get wealthy; it’s all about mindset. 
• When you start spending your money on things that align with what you want, it expands.
• You’ve to be willing to go through the breakdown to get to the breakthrough. 
• Money trauma isn’t about our parents or us; it goes back to many millennials. 
• It’s our responsibility to break the cycle by learning and passing knowledge to the next generation. 

 

Connect With Us

Tsitsi Mutiti

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tsitsi-mutiti-chartered-fcsi/?originalSubdomain=uk

Twitter: https://twitter.com/tsitsimutiti

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tsitsitandiwe/?hl=en

Vangile Makwakwa

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/

Episode 54: How I created an extra stream of income of US$2000 per month, working 4 days a month

In this week’s episode of the #MoneyMagic Podcast, I share a live class on how I created an extra stream of income.

 

Healing from money traumas is the key to tapping into the ancestral money wisdom. It will make it easier to pivot and develop strategies that are in alignment with who you are and where you want to go. Your life lifestyle matters and the lifestyle you want to live will determine your business model and business strategies. 

 

Today's episode is taken from a live class I did on my Free & Day Tapping Into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training on unlocking ancestral money wisdom, self-awareness, money goals, and how you can build a business model and negotiate for jobs that align with your lifestyle. 

 

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During this episode, you will learn about;

[02:58] What in for you in today’s episode  

[05:45] The blueprint to unlocking ancestral wisdom to create consistent income

[09:00] Understanding your Vision and income goals 

[09:14] Understanding your lifestyle and your time constrains 

[15:23] How I used my lifestyle to inform my business model and job negotiations

[23:52] How I used my job and side hustles to pay off my debts 

[34:35] Why you should keep your job while building your business 

[37:12] Doing inner work and taking action place from a place of alignment

[47:55] Paying off debt and increasing your savings

[51:58] Ending the show and call to action 

Notable Quotes 

• Your lifestyle will inform your business model and job negotiations
• You can build a business that allows you to enjoy life and make money
• Doing inner work will give you clarity in what you’re doing 

Connect With Me

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/

Episode 53: Money (& your business) takes the form of who you are…

This week in the #MoneyMagic I talked to Lesego Lekwakwe, head of customer relations and a hairdresser. To Lesego, hairdressing is both a gift and a business that has given her an edge in life. She started plaiting hair when she was ten years old, and the fire is still on even after acquiring a degree and masters.  

In this podcast Lesego explains that money is not just a mode of exchange, it also carries energy that takes the form of who you are. Your currency is in the emotion. Your trauma and emotions that govern money determine your energy around money. A negative attitude will make money distance itself from you. Just like you, money also wants to be loved and adored to create a positive impact.

Lesego explains how taking the course has allowed her to change her definition of money. At first, she thought she knew everything about money, but she discovered she had trouble with her bank account, spending and pricing her services. The course taught her how to value her gifts and business to connect with clients at her energy level. Lesego has also mastered the habit of paying herself first and spending in alignment with her values.

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During this episode, you will learn about:

[03:30] Lesego’s career backstory  

[04:33] Lesego’s description and definition of money

[07:44] Charging your services to connect with clients at your energy level 

[17:12] When Lesego realised she wasn’t good with money 

[23:27] Valuing your gift and business 

[28:13] How money magic has helped her to shift her mindset

[31:17] How healing money trauma has shifted Lesego’s relationships

[37:36] Spending money in alignment with your values and how Lesego mastered it

[39:47] Paying yourself fast and being okay with money staying in your account 

[42:37] Lessons that were very valuable to Lesego in her healing journey  

[48:38] Lesego’s work shifts as a result of inner healing 

[57:17] Appreciating money and developing positive energy around money 

[61:56] The meaning of inner child meditation and how it works

[64:44] How to reach out and connect with Lesego 

[66:56] The importance of the money magic course and how it is impacting people lives

Notable Quotes 

• Money is an energy that takes the form of who you are
• Start your business with the end in the mind 
• Setting boundaries changes the way you do things
• Spend money in alignment with your values
• When you do the inner work, you feel lighter 
• Money takes the form of who you are, and so does your business

Connect With Us

Lesego Lekwakwe

Facebook: 

https://www.facebook.com/lesegos.lekwakwe 

Vangile Makwakwa

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/

Episode 52: Using yoga to heal trauma and grief?

This week in the #MoneyMagic Podcast, I  talk to Jawana Marshall, a mom, yogi, and the founder of Brown Girl Yoga Tribe. Jawana fell in love with yoga at 18 after her father died. Her first experience was backed by competition and experimenting on how flexible she was. The second time she did it, her purpose was different, and she was very intentional. For her, yoga embodied the person she wanted to be, loving and peaceful.

 

Yoga is not about what you’re doing with your body. It’s about finding your space from the inside. Finding stillness beyond your thoughts, movements, and whatever is happening around you. This is the heart of yoga, and being able to find peace and calmness over and over again is what will help you find your healing.  

  

We usually have different layers of emotional trauma. Everything starts in the casual body, then in the astral body, emotional body, and mental body before manifesting in the physical body.

 

Yoga is a gentle journey, and it will help you peel off the layers and heal. For Jawana, it has given her priceless calm feeling no matter what is happening around her. She was in a mess, but yoga created a space for breakthroughs and to be authentically happy while pushing beyond those boundaries energetically. 

 

This is another incredible episode.

 

Tune in!

During this episode, you will learn about;

[03:35] Jawana’s first attempt at yoga and why she left 

[10:09] Jawana’s second attempt and how this was different from the first one

[16:26] The heart of yoga and learning how to evolve it 

[17:05] Why Jawana started the Brown Girl Yoga Tribe

[25:10] COVID-19, 2021 online breakthrough and the losses that came about

[28:21] The importance of creating a space for brown women to grow together 

[32:12] Immediate and long-term shifts that Jawana experienced after starting Yoga

[41:00] Layers of emotional trauma and how yoga can help peel them off gently to heal

[43:13] Yoga healing journey and how it impacts our relationships

[46:35] Surrendering energetically internally for external manifestation  

[49:04] Establishing boundaries between money, business, and friendship 

[54:23] Handling urgency through to yoga

[57:27] How yoga has shifted Jawana’s perception around money

[59:16] Knowing your worth and asking for miracles daily 

[60:58] Jawana’s retreat centre and how everything started

Notable Quotes 

 

• The heart of yoga is coming back and finding peace over and over again
• When there’s recognition, there is a certain level of healing that takes place
• When we’re comfortable, we’re walking magic 
• Yoga is a gentle journey to healing
• Yoga will allow you to see energy for what it is 

 

Connect With Us

Jawana Marshall 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jawana-marshall-11b98640/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/groups/291134118873708/?_rdc=1&_rdr

Vangile Makwakwa

Website: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic

LinkedIn:  https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vangilemakwakwa/