Money Magic Podcast

Episode 101: Understanding and Healing Money Karma

In this week’s episode of the #MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile talks about money karma, what it is and how to heal it.

She delves into the concept of financial karma and alignment, sharing her struggles with debt and how her behavior and broken promises contributed to her financial woes. She emphasizes the necessity of aligning thoughts, words, and deeds to create positive financial outcomes. By borrowing money without repaying and breaking commitments, she attracted similar negative behaviors from others, which perpetuated her cycle of debt. 

The podcast highlights the significance of karma and reciprocity, with Vangile sharing stories of how her acts of generosity and gifting led to unexpected financial windfalls and opportunities. She recounts transformative experiences, how her commitment to gifting for 200 days significantly improved her financial situation by allowing her to pay off debt and save money.

She then concludes by discussing the importance of forgiveness and self-forgiveness in clearing financial karma. By acknowledging past financial mistakes, making amends, and paying back debts, she improved her financial relationships and attracted clients willing to pay for her services. 

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

02:08: Introduction to the topic of financial karma and alignment

06:21: The link between money karma and debt

09:04: How actions affect our financial situation and relationships

10:18: Aligning thoughts, words, and deeds to improve her financial situation

13:09: Practical steps for achieving financial alignment

16:20: Understanding karma and its implications

17:40:  The four types of people in Vipassana related to karma

19:51: How to change your karma

26:56: Using the law of reciprocity to become debt free

33:04: Doing a 200 days of gifting challenge

42:25: The role of forgiveness in financial karma.

51:02: About the Money Magic course and its benefits

58:10: Quote by Henry Ward Beecher.

 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "Alignment is a very easy thing. It's something that we do little by little on a daily basis."
2. "We become a bit more lucky when we are in alignment with our thoughts, words, and needs."
3. "Sometimes we don't listen to that inner guidance, and we think that by gifting, we are undermining ourselves."
4. “When we've experienced abuse and oppression, it basically puts us in survival mode, and it makes it hard for us to trust what we hear and to trust that inner voice."
5. “That knowledge is within ourselves. It's not with a guru. It's not outside of us. It's within us."

 

Additional money resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 100: Healing the Mother Wound: A Conversation with Moshitadi Lehlomela

In this week’s episode of the #MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile talks to Moshitadi Lehlomela, author of “The Girl Who Survived Her Mother.”

She discusses her work as a mother wound recovery coach and her experiences with the mother wound. She shares that she realized she had a mother wound at university and how therapy helped her understand the impact of her relationship with her mother on her mental health. She defines the mother wound as trauma resulting from inadequate mothering, which can include neglect, abandonment, and abuse.

Moshitadi emphasizes the importance of addressing and healing this wound to improve one's overall well-being.

She also shares her journey of overcoming guilt and shame associated with discussing her mother wound and receiving backlash from others. She highlights the importance of building healthy relationships and boundaries to protect oneself from further harm. Through her healing process, Moshitadi has learned to embrace joy, allow herself to be loved, and increase her capacity for happiness and peace. She also discusses the significance of having supportive friends who help her navigate her healing journey.

She also shares how her mother's unhealthy relationship with money influenced her own financial behaviors. She struggled with guilt and shame around spending money on herself and often found herself in debt. She has worked on reframing her beliefs about money and building capacity for financial success, especially in relationships. She encourages others to start their healing journey, interact with supportive communities, and seek financial freedom alongside emotional healing. 

Contact Moshitadi at: https://linktr.ee/Moshitadi 

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

02:28: Introduction to Moshitadi

05:00:  Writing “The Girl Who Survived Her Mother”

06:50: When Moshitadi realized she had a mother wound 

10:48: Dealing with criticism and backlash for talking about the mother wound

15:36: The difference between the law of attraction  and healing

19:40: Dealing with abusive mothers

25:08: Learning love from friends 

32:54: Healing the mother wound

41:02: The link between the mother wound and the relationship with money

49:13: How Moshitadi changed her relationship with money 50:14: 

55:05: Going no contact with your mother

01:02:51: Building the capacity for joy

01:06:00: Surrounding yourself with good people

01:15:08: Last words from Moshitadi  

Notable Quotes 

1. 
   “Because ultimately, as much as we can heal as individuals, it helps to have people around us heal as well so that we're not so isolated.”
2. “I really tried to change my mum with my thoughts to be happy so that I'm vibrating higher than her anger. It just didn't work. It really didn't work.”
3. “We can't manage anyone's emotions for them. We can't change their behavioural habits.”
4. “My work is to work on me and to make sure that I'm here.” 
5. “My friends have been teaching me what it is to be loved.”

Additional money resources:

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

 

Episode 99: Connecting with the Spirit of Money: From Barter to Bitcoin

In this week’s episode of the #MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile talks about money routines and the spirit of money and how that helped her get out of debt.

She delves into the history of money, explaining how it has evolved from the barter system to the use of shells, metals, coins, and eventually paper money backed by governments. She highlights the changes in human consciousness and economic systems over time, leading to the current fiat money system and the emerging cryptocurrency. She also introduces the concept of the spirit of money and money archetypes, which have evolved alongside these monetary systems, reflecting different roles and relationships with money throughout history.

The concept of the spirit of money is central to Vangile’s work, where she encourages clients to meditate and connect with their unique spirit of money. This connection helps uncover deep-seated beliefs and traumas related to money, often passed down through generations. She shares her personal experience with the spirit of money, which initially appeared to her as a clown, symbolizing her fear and negative perception of money.

In addition to the spiritual aspects, Vangile emphasizes practical daily money routines to improve financial health. These include looking at one's bank account daily, creating a spending manifesto aligned with personal values, writing daily letters to money, and conducting regular money check-ins.

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

02:08: Introduction to money routines and spirit of money

03:38: History of money and its evolution

08:31: Using copper, silver and gold to pay in 3000 BC

12:31: Introduction of paper money in the 7th century

14:33: Developing the banking system

20:10: Archetypes in monetary evolution

30:05: Introduction to spirit of money work

35:15: Personal experience with spirit of money meditation

45:52: Changing the perception of business and how to run a business

50:14: Practical money routines

54:52: Spending in accordance with your values

01:03:00: Details about the Money Magic Course

01:11:00 Closing Remarks and Quote

 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "Money has evolved over time, just as human consciousness has evolved."
2. "As our relationship with money changes and what we consider wealth changes, even the things that we value start to change."
3. "Every time we interacted with money, we formed some archetype around money."
4. "When we act in accordance with our values, we are more likely to maintain that behavior than if we are acting from a space of discipline."
5. “You can't heal things that you are not willing to acknowledge."

 

Additional money resources:

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

 

Episode 98: The Hidden Cost of Self Sacrifice: Unpacking the Vow of Service

In this week’s episode of the  MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile talks about the vow of service, which is a commitment many of us make, sometimes consciously, often unconsciously, to dedicate our lives to serving others. This vow can span across lifetimes and may even have roots in our ancestral lineage. Those who take this vow often find deep fulfillment in helping others, yet it can also lead to challenges like financial strain and burnout.

In the podcast Vangile shares examples from her own family, like nurses and teachers who work tirelessly without charging appropriately for their services, highlighting the connection between this vow of service and the struggle to set boundaries and charge fairly for one's work.

She recounts her personal experience with the vow of service, which she discovered through past life regression therapy. She shares how a past life as a nun in the Catholic Church, where she took a vow of service without compensation, impacted her current life. And how this vow eventually led to years of writer’s blog and stage fright.

The discussion also touches on the vow of invisibility, which often intertwines with the vow of service, where she explains how this vow manifests as a reluctance to be seen or acknowledged for one's contributions, leading to feelings of being unappreciated and unseen.

Vangile also shares how she and her clients work to heal the vow of service and vow invisibility.

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

02:24: Introduction to podcast episode

05:31: The challenge of charging for your services

07:15: Dealing with the vow of service as a Fixer or Sweet One

10:02: Using past life regression therapy to heal and uncover the vow of service

13:51: Charging for my speaking services for the first time

19:33: The impact of the vow of service on Vangile’s business and finances in this lifetime

23:51: Working hard for very little money and making US$500 in 4 years in business

28:06: Finding yourself stuck at a particular income

33:33: The intersection of the vow of service with the vow of invisibility

42:14: How to heal the vow of service and the vow of invisibility

48:05: Invitation to the Visibility Mastery Coaching program at: wealthy-

57:03: Quote by Warren Buffet

 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "We don’t need to set ourselves on fire in order to help others and to help others progress, and that doesn't help anyone."
2. "We have to be able to look after ourselves and then, from a space of an overflowing cup, start to keep serving others and keep helping others."
3. "There's no really final or finite death unless the soul comes to the point where it chooses, or no, no, chooses is the right word, but incarnates to the point where it has gained enough wisdom not to want to come back."
4. "One way to also look at a vow service is when we find ourselves stuck at a particular income set point."
5. “I'm a huge, huge believer in pricing appropriately so that we can get the support that we need."

 

Additional money resources:

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 97: Handle Black Tax Like A Pro

In this week’s episode of the  MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile talks Ndumi Hadebe, coach, speaker, and author of “Handle Black Tax Like a Pro.”

Ndumi coaches people on setting boundaries and highlights the importance of understanding the opportunity cost of not having boundaries. She emphasizes the need for people to share love and compassion while setting boundaries, to avoid disempowering themselves and shrinking their world.

Ndumi discusses how her journey of understanding boundaries led her to write her book. She shares that a pivotal moment during COVID-19 made her realize the widespread issue of black tax and its connection to unspoken family expectations and lack of boundaries. 

The conversation delves into the cultural and generational difficulties black people face in discussing money. Ndumi explains that previous generations had little money to discuss, leading to a lack of financial transparency in families. This culture has persisted, making it difficult for current generations to talk about money openly. She also highlights how not being taught boundaries as children impacts one's ability to set boundaries as adults, affecting various aspects of life, including finances.

She provides practical advice on how parents can better honor their children's boundaries and teach them about setting financial boundaries, emphasizing the importance of listening and validating their feelings . She also how individuals can start breaking the cycle of black tax by first having an honest conversation with themselves about their financial situation. Ndumi outlines a formula for having these difficult conversations with family members: combining truth and love while removing the need to be right. 

This is another insightful episode.

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During this episode, you will learn about:

02:57: Introduction to Ndumi

06:40: Journey of writing the book "Handle Black Tax Like A Pro"

12:24: Why it's challenging for black people to talk about money and black tax within families

17:48: The wound of being seen and being heard

21:04: Ndumi reads a quote from her book about communicating boundaries with love and compassion

23:44: How to tell if a family member doesn’t honour boundaries and how to handle that

26:40: Teaching children about financial boundaries as a parent

32:19: Can black tax can be a form of financial bullying within families?

38:25: First steps someone can take to break the cycle of black tax

46:59: Importance of being transparent about finances with family members

49:14: Effects of having conversations around black tax on personal finances and relationships.

52:00: How boundaries can help in making money and managing income

01:02:17: Contact Ndumi: https://ndumihadebe.co.za/ 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "Our lack of boundaries dims our light. It actually disempowers us. It disempowers the purpose that God has channeled through us."
2. "I realized that we don't talk about black tax with our families, actually, which is such a disservice to the fibre of society and the fibre of black families."
3. "Black tax is not really so much about money as it is about boundaries."
4. "I think kids should question everything, including religion, including how spirituality works. Everything."
5. “The more I didn't value myself, the more unvalued I became. So the less I respected my craft, the more people didn't respect my craft."

 

Additional money resources:

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

 

Episode 96: Money, Trauma, Ballet & the Power of Presence

In this week’s episode of the  MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile talks to Lise Brenner, a former ballet dancer turned somatic work practitioner. Lise is also a Wealthy Money coaching client and #MoneyMagic student who delves into her journey of reconnecting with herself, navigating career shifts, and emphasizing body awareness for creative expression and emotional well-being.

Lise elaborates on the interplay between body awareness, emotional healing, and self-image, particularly within the ballet world's standards of body shape and size.

She shares the unseen challenges faced by dancers, contrasting glamorous perceptions with the dedication and hard work behind the scenes.

She reflects on her ongoing journey of self-acceptance and body positivity, advocating for embracing one's body and cultivating a positive self-relationship, especially in industries like ballet that prioritize specific body types.

The conversation also explores the connection between money, trauma, and self-worth, with Lise giving insights into her struggles with financial stability and self-perception, highlighting the impact of upbringing and societal standards on her relationship with money.

She also shares her path of healing and transformation, addressing challenges related to chronic pain, emotional eating, and body image issues through practices like meditation and somatic experiencing.

She emphasizes the significance of being present in one's body, honouring emotional needs, and fostering empowerment in navigating life's complexities. 

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

03:40: Introduction of Lise Brenner as a guest on the podcast

05:48: How do you define yourself as a soul?

10:15: Moving to New York with US$1,000 in savings

13:46:  Feeling like money and safety came from men

17:34: Moving to Amsterdam

22:30: How moving to Europe changed Lise’ thinking    

 31:28: Helping people get into their bodies and the transformation it brings

36:24: How to become aware of your emotions and the sensations in the body

40:22: Using meditation techniques to help people drop into their bodies

43:58: Using your body to discover your truth and next steps

49:59: The link between money and the body

54:55: Learning to be present with money

01:03:15: Contact Lise: https://www.lisebrenner.com/ or https://www.instagram.com/lisebrenner/

 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "The challenge isn't doing it right. The challenge is showing up and doing it."
2. "How can I allow myself to make substantial, secure money, be financially abundant, make good choices, and stop the starvation bingeing thing?"
3. "How can I be present with money the same way I'm trying to be present with my body?"
4. "I realised that the reason why a lot of my writing failed was because I was standing way far away from it, too afraid to actually be present in my body and say what was actually true."
5. "Everybody can move, everybody can dance. Everybody has the capacity to feel joy and completion in their body as they move."

 

Additional money resources:

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 95: Exploring Entrepreneurship, Nomadic Living & Investing Across Continents

In this week’s episode of the  MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile sits down with Matthew Bowles, a digital nomad, real estate professional, founder of the Maverick Investor Group, and host of the Maverick Show Podcast.

In this episode, Matt shares his journey of running a remote real estate brokerage that helps people invest in US properties from anywhere in the world.

He emphasizes the importance of problem-solving in entrepreneurship and the emotional resilience required to navigate the challenges of running a business. Matt also discusses his values, including a focus on collective liberation and activism, which guide his business decisions and personal life.

Matt highlights the significance of building a remote business infrastructure from the start, allowing him to travel and work from various locations. He emphasizes the importance of meaningful connections with fellow travelers and locals, enabling deep and quick relationships while immersing in different cultures.

The conversation delves into the emotional aspects of being a digital nomad, including loneliness, forming connections, and leaving places behind.

Matt's nomadic journey has allowed him to experience the world in immersive ways, fostering personal growth and diverse perspectives. His advice to hesitant individuals is to embrace the unknown, overcome fear, and take the leap into the nomadic lifestyle to explore the world and oneself.

He also gives insights into real estate investment opportunities in the US market for individuals worldwide, through his company Maverick Investor Group.

This is another insightful episode, especially for anyone looking to invest in the US market.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

02:08: Introduction to the guest, Matthew Bowles

08:04: Transitioning from non-profit to entrepreneurship and travel

10:08: Pivoting to start a real estate brokerage

12:12: Challenges of starting a business

15:20: Transition to becoming a digital nomad

19:15: Resilience and problem-solving in entrepreneurship

28:26: Journey from nonprofit work to entrepreneurship

30:46: Building your business so you can travel

39:37: Navigating community and relationships while traveling

45:15: Building a global network and friendships

49:26: The benefits of being a digital nomad and slow travel

54:16: How to plan your finances so you can start living as a digital nomad

01:00:06: Attending to key aspects of life and maintaining balance while traveling

01:02:58: Working with Maverick Investor Group for real estate investment in the US

01:08:16: Options for non-US citizens to obtain loans for property investment in the US

01:11:02: Contact Matt:

For free resources: https://themaverickshow.com/moneymagic

https://www.instagram.com/mattbowlesmaverick/

 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "Entrepreneurship is really about problem-solving. It's just ongoing, continual problem-solving."
2. "Entrepreneurship requires you to have resilience and to build resilience."
3.   "The world that we live in is an amazing place. It's really extraordinary. It's massively huge, super diverse, beautiful, and wonderful."
4. "It is financially advantageous to leave your current place and go to travel the world and spend time in less expensive places."
5. “I don't really have a favorite country. That's literally why I'm a nomad.”

 

Additional money resources:

 

Check out Vangile’s podcast interview on the Maverick Show: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Ao5u1V9AaXztqGxj1ekFn 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

 

Episode 94: Navigating Money, Family, and Business from South Africa to Dubai

In today’s episode of the  MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile sits down with Pascaline Nkwe, a #MoneyMagic student, entrepreneur, and Head of Operations and Co-Founder of Miftah Concierge in Dubai.

 

In this episode, Pascaline shares her journey to overcome her money fears and how to align her spending with values. She discusses the challenges of relocating from South Africa to Dubai, running a concierge business, and managing family expectations. She also emphasizes the importance of separating personal and business finances.

 

Pascaline also gives us a deep dive into her business and how leaving your home country can open new opportunities for growth. She highlights the concierge's role in providing personalized services, attention to detail, and enhancing client experiences. She discusses the diverse services offered, leveraging networks to support individuals and businesses. Pascaline stresses planning ahead and transparency in business finances for sustainability and growth.

 

She showcases her versatility in offering social media branding packages and emphasizes inner work and self-belief for business success. She invites exploration of coaching services and resources for personal growth.

 

This is another interesting podcast episode.

 

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

-            03:19: Introduction to Pascaline

-            06:28: Pascaline discusses how her relationship with money has evolved over time

-            12:29: The fear of holding onto money and the influence of past experiences

-            15:25: Challenges of managing money and family expectations, especially related to living abroad

-            18:26: Financial challenges faced by expats in countries like the UAE

-            23:33: Strategies for regulating her nervous system and handling uncomfortable financial conversations

-            28:17: Benefits of planning ahead and being present in managing personal finances.

-            32:40: Challenges and fears of starting a business, especially around visibility and family expectations

-            33:12: The role of a concierge in providing personalized services and lifestyle management

-            50:40: How a concierge can be utilized to build and scale a business effectively

-            01:00:10: The difference between managing personal and business finances

-            01:06:55: How to partner with Pascaline and contact her

 

Contact Pascaline: pascaline.nkwe [at] gmail [dot] com

 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. “Money allows us to look within and brings out all our different values.”
2. “If you have weak boundaries, you will get to see it when you have money.”
3.   "If you're changing, maybe your values are also changing."
4. " Building networks takes time, and especially if you're a startup, you don't have the time.” 
5. "Once you leave and go live in a different country, there's this illusion in people's heads that now you have made it, which isn't necessarily true because it's a different currency. It's different. Things are completely different."

 

Additional money resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

 

Episode 93: Legacy Building: Teaching Children Financial Fluency

In this week’s podcast, Vangile sits down with Sabrina Lamb, six-time author, former stand up comic and founder and CEO of World of Money and Wekeza. Sabrina explains that her purpose is to ensure Black economic sovereignty throughout the entire planet.

 

The conversation delves into the challenges faced by people of African descent when it comes to money management and the need for financial education tailored to different cultural contexts. 

 

She highlights the significance of teaching children about financial literacy, instilling values of saving, investing, entrepreneurship, and philanthropy early on. She stresses the importance of respecting and appreciating money, managing assets wisely, and giving back to the community.

 

She also introduces Wekeza, a platform aimed at providing financial education and investment opportunities for families globally. She discusses the cultural significance of financial services and the importance of honoring unique cultural practices in financial education. She aims to empower individuals to achieve financial fluency, cultivate a mindset of abundance, and build a legacy of financial stability.

 

This is another powerful podcast episode, especially for people with kids.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

- 02:19: Introduction to Sabrina Lamb

- 03:17: Sabrina talks about her purpose

- 06:18: Sabrina’s personal financial journey and inspiration

- 08:01: Sabrina reflects on her views on money before and after gaining financial knowledge.

- 09:33: The impact of self-esteem on financial behavior.

11:23: Teaching children about self-perception in relation to money

13:50: How parents can approach financial discussions with their children

16:40: Impact of parent archetypes on children's perception of money

21:22: Addressing different parent money beliefs and their impact

24:01: Preparing children for financial challenges in the external world

26:57: Approaches to supporting children in creating generational wealth

30:25: Importance of financial fluency and capability

35:22: Challenges faced by people of African descent in relation to money

37:52: Importance of changing the narrative around money and wealth

43:12: Commitment to culturally inclusive financial education

Contact Sabrina at: https://www.worldofmoney.org/ or https://wekeza.com/ 

 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "Money connects you with one of the most powerful currencies on the planet, to be leveraged for good."
2.   "You are already perfectly perfect as you are."
3. "Plant the seeds so that the seeds of reward come back to you.” 
4. "Financial education is not one size fits all. It's cultural. It's part of the infrastructure. It's part of the psyche."
5. “I use the term financial fluency, financial capability. Know how the systems operate, the financial systems, rather, in your country, in your locale.”

 

Additional money resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 92: Reclaiming Indigenous Birth Practices with Mmatshilo Motsei

In this episode of the Money Magic Podcast Vangile welcomes Mmatshilo Motsei, an expert in African birthing practices, author, PhD holder, and former activist, as her guest. 

Mmatshilo shares her journey, from feeling burdened by her family's legacy of healers to embracing it as a privilege.

She shares how education often focuses on making a living rather than nurturing dreams and the pressure to conform to societal expectations, especially for women. She highlights the importance of resilience and the need to acknowledge contradictions in indigenous knowledge due to colonization.

She reflects on the impact of hospital births on maternal and infant trauma and advocates for home births as a less violent alternative. She discusses the politicization of childbirth, particularly in developing countries, and the importance of education and advocacy for women's rights in birthing choices.

Mmatshilo also emphasizes the significance of respecting women's choices in pain management during childbirth and cultural rituals surrounding pregnancy and naming ceremonies.

The conversation extends to the undervaluation of reproductive labor and the lack of understanding among men about the birthing process. She also shares personal experiences and discusses the importance of communal support during childbirth and the transformative power of birth stories. She also announces the launch of Africa Ikalafe Pluriversity, an academy for indigenous knowledge focused on African spirituality and childbirth philosophy.

This is another powerful podcast episode.

Tune in.

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

- 00:02:20: Introduction to Mmatshilo Motsei, an expert in African birthing practices

- 00:08:30: Being labelled a rebel and navigating societal expectations

- 00:13:09: The prize of conforming and going against your soul

- 00:16:07: Life is like a dance

- 00:19:17: Journey from being a nurse to midwife to PhD

- 00:23:58: The trauma of birth

- 00:28:42: Christianizing indigenous practices

- 00:32:00: The role of Indigenous midwives in childbirth

- 00:38:08: The politicization of childbirth

-00:42:24: The politicization of childbirth and empowering women's birthing choices

 - 00:46:00: Dealing with blame, shame and guilt after giving birth

- 00:51:93: Pre-conception rituals to welcome the soul

- 00:55:59: The importance of communal support after childbirth

- 01:00:12: The invisibility of reproductive labor

- 01:06:50: Being conceived through love and how birth stories shape us

-01:11:31: Reinterpreting your birth story

- 01:13:08: Launching Africa Ikalafe Pluriversity

- 01:19:40

Contact Mmatshilo at: https://afrikaikalafe.org/

Or  

Register for The African Spirituality of Childbirth course at: https://learn.afrikaikalafe.org/

 

Notable Quotes 

 

1. "Success and prosperity must be our default, must be a place where we operate from."
2.   "Once you know what your no-no is... you refuse to take it."
3. "The womb is a carrier of life and also a carrier of pain."   
4. "Stories are about interpretation. You reinterpret it in a way that makes sense for you in this world now.”
5.   “Life is like a dance... You conform for some time to buy yourself time."

 

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7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

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