Episode 81: Healing the Trauma of Asking, Receiving, and Guilt-Free Spending

In this week’s episode, Vangile engages in a conversation with Soufia Rabha, a skilled traveler from Morocco with expertise in brand marketing, transitioning into content production and digital systems. They first met in Casablanca, Morocco and have since worked together in Wealthy Money.

 

Throughout the episode, they delve into the intricate relationship between childhood experiences and financial behaviors, shedding light on the challenges that arise in asking for and receiving what one truly needs as an adult.

 

Reflecting on their own personal experiences, they share stories of guilt, pressure, and learned behaviors from their upbringing, highlighting how these experiences have influenced their current relationship with money.

 

Furthermore, they explore the impact of these past experiences on their ability to ask for and receive, both in personal and professional contexts. Their individual journeys of healing unveil the significance of self-reflection, self-care, and finding a harmonious balance between self-nourishment and avoiding extremes.

 

This episode explores money mindset and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, healing, and prioritizing personal needs.

Tune in!

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

[00:00] - Introduction to the podcast

[00:02:20] - Introduction of Soufia

[00:06:28] - The impact of traveling on mental health and self-discovery

[00:09:59] - Recent experience of feeling pressure and guilt in receiving

[00:14:39] - Hiding our needs and wants to avoid rejection or confrontation

[00:22:13] - Self-deprivation and overspending as a result of childhood experiences

[00:26:20] - The stress and physical discomfort of asking for things

[00:30:47] – Being careful with shame when dealing with money

[00:35:58.] – Having a significant amount of money in your account for the first time

[00:39:39] – The fear of looking at your bank account

[00:41:13] – Soufia shares about gradually relaxing around checking her bank account

[00:46:00] - The feeling of having to pay others back and how it can impact relationships

[00:51:51] – Learning to trust and relax when it comes to receiving

[00:54:39] – Receiving support and learning not to do everything on your own

[00:59:21] – How does increasing our receiving set point impact our family dynamics

[01:04:48.770] - Speaker 1 shares her Instagram handle and mentions being tagged on Facebook.

[01:05:02] – Contact Soufia on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/slashyaa/ and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Slashya

 

Notable Quotes 

• Money means security, means freedom. Freedom to move and freedom to do the things that I want for myself
• Whenever there is that resistance that, Oh, this is expensive, I try to tune into that voice that tells me, but I can't afford it now
• Abundance doesn't mean that I can squander whatever I have
• When I allowed myself to spend on myself, it then changed my perception of what I felt like I was capable of receiving
• Sometimes I'm not buying just the meal, the expensive meal, or the expensive trip. Sometimes I also find that I'm buying myself access to opportunities

Check out Vangile's Interview on the GeoMaxing Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/geomaxing/episodes/1-Vangile-Makwakwa-GeoMaxing-To-Live-with-intention-e1lgv86 

 

Additional money resources:

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

Bank Account Challenge: https://wealthy-money.com/bankaccount 

Book a discovery call: https://www.wealthy-money.com/discoverycall 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Next Level You Journal: wealthy-money.com/joournal

 

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/