Episode 127: Why the ‘Difficult One’ in the Family Holds the Key to Transformation

In this podcast episode, Vangile talks about the Destroyer Archetype which is known for rebellion and bringing family secrets to light, often seen as difficult or an outcast.

 

The Destroyer archetype is someone who often rebels against family norms and is seen as a "black sheep." Destroyers carry a strong sense of independence, yet this can lead to feelings of isolation.

 

The Destroyer’s journey is often marked by deep wounds, including feelings of abandonment, rejection, and self-doubt. Growing up in chaotic environments can lead to difficulties managing finances.

 

Vangile explains that Destroyers, though often misunderstood, play a crucial role in family dynamics. They bring hidden truths and secrets to light, often disrupting the status quo. This role can be painful but ultimately leads to healing and growth within the family.

 

The Destroyer’s wounds of not belonging can create an overwhelming fear of failure, particularly regarding money. This can result in stagnation, where this archetype remains stuck in unsatisfying financial situations.

 

In an effort to feel a sense of belonging or acceptance, Destroyers may overcompensate by spending excessively on material goods or experiences.

 

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in!

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[02:08] - Introduction to the podcast

[04:00] - Discussion on the destroyer archetype

[08:27] – The Destroyer’s role in the family

[17:32] - Challenges faced by destroyers in following traditional financial advice

[20:37] - Introduction to the destroyer archetype's characteristics

[24:59] - Importance of the destroyer archetype

[30:32] - The independence of destroyers and their challenges in adulthood

[35:00] - Importance of healthy conflict initiated by destroyers

[39:39] - Core wounds of the destroyer archetype and their financial impact

[45:41] - Impact of fear of being too much

[49:39] - How fear of rejection affects destroyers' finances

[54:02] - The healing journey of the destroyer archetype

[58:17] - Releasing thoughts and emotions in the body

[01:01:16] - Transition from destroyer to renovator archetype

[01:02:39] - Explanation of the renovator's role in the family

[01:06:57] - How healing affects destroyers' financial behavior

[01:11:18] - The Destroyers' financial transformation after healing

[01:19:30] - Information on purchasing the book and accessing resources

[01:23:47] - Introduction to one-on-one coaching and its benefits

[01:33:47] – Closing remarks

 

 Notable Quotes

 

1.     "The destroyer reveals and may actually display all the hidden toxic behaviour in the family, often in a violent and unpleasant manner."
2.       "The fixer archetype is the strongest energetically in the family. The second strongest is the destroyer."
3.     "Once you understand your archetype and you start to understand your main way of interacting with money, you can start to see when you are being triggered by money.”
4.       "We all have different reasons for not being able to make money."
5.       "For change to happen, you have to have some chaos. You have to have some friction."
6.   “A destroyer that conforms impacts their income because it goes against their soul-patterning around how they are here to make money."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

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