Episode 126: Pricing, Self-Worth & The Sweet One Archetype: Why Asking for More Money Feels So Hard

In this episode of the Money Magic podcast, Vangile Makwakwa is focuses on understanding the Sweet One Money Archetype. The Sweet One is empathetic and generous, often putting others' needs before their own. While this makes them caring and compassionate people, it can also lead to financial challenges like debt due to overgiving and struggles with setting boundaries.

 

 

In this episode Vangile emphasizes the importance of addressing the "not good enough" wound to improve financial behaviour. This involves self-compassion and self-validation instead of seeking external approval.

 

 

Vangile also explores the challenges Sweet Ones face in pricing their services and seeking salary increases due to fear of judgment and conflict.

 

This discomfort with charging often translates to the Sweet One giving their services away for free or undercharging drastically, which, while temporarily preserving relationships, ultimately leads to financial stress.

 

The Sweet One may even experience guilt for wanting fair compensation (that’s a vow of service), perceiving it as selfish or out of alignment with their identity as a giver.

 

Vangile also does an EFT Tapping session on pricing and salary anxiety.

 

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in!

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[05:36] - Discussing the sweet one archetype and financial boundaries

[07:08] - Explanation of shadow and golden archetypes

[11:17] - Definition of the sweet one archetype

[17:08] - The sweet one’s role in family and financial implications

[20:06] - Challenges of pricing and asking for salary raises

[24:29] - The sweet one's fear of rejection

[28:57] - Importance of boundaries for the Sweet One

[34:25] - Working through the not good enough wound

[40:15] - Misconceptions about pricing and self-worth

[44:31] - Aligning financial goals with personal values

[53:01] - Transition from sweet one to boundary one

[01:04:16] - Making small incremental changes for financial improvement

[01:07:28] - Discussion on repressed anger within the sweet one

[01:15:34] - EFT tapping session for pricing and salary anxiety

[01:20:03] - EFT tapping session for salary concerns

[01:43:22] - Working with sweet ones without exploiting them

[01:46:05] - Information on where to buy the book and other resources

[02:01:07] - Closing remarks and invitation for further engagement

 

 Notable Quotes

 

1.       "The not good enough wound is a wound that we have because of the fear of criticism."
2.       "The role of the sweet one is to be the glue in the family."
3.       "Anger is one of the top emotions that will block you from receiving money."
4.       "What healing is, is it basically creates space for you to be able to take a breath and a breather before reacting."
5.       "Boundaries are not just for your family. You should also have boundaries with clients and with regards to your finances."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

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