Money Magic Podcast

Episode 127: Why the ‘Difficult One’ in the Family Holds the Key to Transformation

In this podcast episode, Vangile talks about the Destroyer Archetype which is known for rebellion and bringing family secrets to light, often seen as difficult or an outcast.

 

The Destroyer archetype is someone who often rebels against family norms and is seen as a "black sheep." Destroyers carry a strong sense of independence, yet this can lead to feelings of isolation.

 

The Destroyer’s journey is often marked by deep wounds, including feelings of abandonment, rejection, and self-doubt. Growing up in chaotic environments can lead to difficulties managing finances.

 

Vangile explains that Destroyers, though often misunderstood, play a crucial role in family dynamics. They bring hidden truths and secrets to light, often disrupting the status quo. This role can be painful but ultimately leads to healing and growth within the family.

 

The Destroyer’s wounds of not belonging can create an overwhelming fear of failure, particularly regarding money. This can result in stagnation, where this archetype remains stuck in unsatisfying financial situations.

 

In an effort to feel a sense of belonging or acceptance, Destroyers may overcompensate by spending excessively on material goods or experiences.

 

This is another insightful episode.

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During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[02:08] - Introduction to the podcast

[04:00] - Discussion on the destroyer archetype

[08:27] – The Destroyer’s role in the family

[17:32] - Challenges faced by destroyers in following traditional financial advice

[20:37] - Introduction to the destroyer archetype's characteristics

[24:59] - Importance of the destroyer archetype

[30:32] - The independence of destroyers and their challenges in adulthood

[35:00] - Importance of healthy conflict initiated by destroyers

[39:39] - Core wounds of the destroyer archetype and their financial impact

[45:41] - Impact of fear of being too much

[49:39] - How fear of rejection affects destroyers' finances

[54:02] - The healing journey of the destroyer archetype

[58:17] - Releasing thoughts and emotions in the body

[01:01:16] - Transition from destroyer to renovator archetype

[01:02:39] - Explanation of the renovator's role in the family

[01:06:57] - How healing affects destroyers' financial behavior

[01:11:18] - The Destroyers' financial transformation after healing

[01:19:30] - Information on purchasing the book and accessing resources

[01:23:47] - Introduction to one-on-one coaching and its benefits

[01:33:47] – Closing remarks

 

 Notable Quotes

 

1.     "The destroyer reveals and may actually display all the hidden toxic behaviour in the family, often in a violent and unpleasant manner."
2.       "The fixer archetype is the strongest energetically in the family. The second strongest is the destroyer."
3.     "Once you understand your archetype and you start to understand your main way of interacting with money, you can start to see when you are being triggered by money.”
4.       "We all have different reasons for not being able to make money."
5.       "For change to happen, you have to have some chaos. You have to have some friction."
6.   “A destroyer that conforms impacts their income because it goes against their soul-patterning around how they are here to make money."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

 

Episode 126: Pricing, Self-Worth & The Sweet One Archetype: Why Asking for More Money Feels So Hard

In this episode of the Money Magic podcast, Vangile Makwakwa is focuses on understanding the Sweet One Money Archetype. The Sweet One is empathetic and generous, often putting others' needs before their own. While this makes them caring and compassionate people, it can also lead to financial challenges like debt due to overgiving and struggles with setting boundaries.

 

 

In this episode Vangile emphasizes the importance of addressing the "not good enough" wound to improve financial behaviour. This involves self-compassion and self-validation instead of seeking external approval.

 

 

Vangile also explores the challenges Sweet Ones face in pricing their services and seeking salary increases due to fear of judgment and conflict.

 

This discomfort with charging often translates to the Sweet One giving their services away for free or undercharging drastically, which, while temporarily preserving relationships, ultimately leads to financial stress.

 

The Sweet One may even experience guilt for wanting fair compensation (that’s a vow of service), perceiving it as selfish or out of alignment with their identity as a giver.

 

Vangile also does an EFT Tapping session on pricing and salary anxiety.

 

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in!

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[05:36] - Discussing the sweet one archetype and financial boundaries

[07:08] - Explanation of shadow and golden archetypes

[11:17] - Definition of the sweet one archetype

[17:08] - The sweet one’s role in family and financial implications

[20:06] - Challenges of pricing and asking for salary raises

[24:29] - The sweet one's fear of rejection

[28:57] - Importance of boundaries for the Sweet One

[34:25] - Working through the not good enough wound

[40:15] - Misconceptions about pricing and self-worth

[44:31] - Aligning financial goals with personal values

[53:01] - Transition from sweet one to boundary one

[01:04:16] - Making small incremental changes for financial improvement

[01:07:28] - Discussion on repressed anger within the sweet one

[01:15:34] - EFT tapping session for pricing and salary anxiety

[01:20:03] - EFT tapping session for salary concerns

[01:43:22] - Working with sweet ones without exploiting them

[01:46:05] - Information on where to buy the book and other resources

[02:01:07] - Closing remarks and invitation for further engagement

 

 Notable Quotes

 

1.       "The not good enough wound is a wound that we have because of the fear of criticism."
2.       "The role of the sweet one is to be the glue in the family."
3.       "Anger is one of the top emotions that will block you from receiving money."
4.       "What healing is, is it basically creates space for you to be able to take a breath and a breather before reacting."
5.       "Boundaries are not just for your family. You should also have boundaries with clients and with regards to your finances."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 125: The Legacy of Oppression: Rewriting Family Money Stories and Healing Parental Wounds

In this episode of the Money Magic podcast, Vangile Makwakwa explores the relationship between money, ancestral trauma, and healing.  This episode focuses on how systemic oppression affects family dynamics and financial behavior, particularly among marginalized groups.

 

 

It highlights the effects of colonization, slavery, and apartheid on financial behaviors, leading to a survival mindset that prioritizes immediate needs over long-term planning.

 

 

Vangile also discusses the concept of money archetypes and how family dynamics shape them. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's money archetype to understand financial behaviors and develop healthier relationships with money.

 

 

She also underscores the need for healing ancestral trauma by understanding how historical and cultural contexts influence financial narratives. It also touches on the psychological effects of oppression and the importance of addressing these issues at a nervous system level.

 

This is another insightful episode.

 

Tune in!

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[02:08]: Introduction to the current episode

[05:07]: Discussion on financial behaviors and systemic oppression

[06:37]: The impact of systemic oppression on financial advice for women

[10:52]: Family dynamics and generational wealth

[18:28]: Reflective exercise for listeners on family money memories

[22:07]: The role of family money stories and cultural impacts

[26:18]: Impact of historical and cultural contexts on money stories

[33:53]: The importance of working with personal and systemic factors

[36:50]: The impact of societal expectations on personal financial behavior

[43:04]: Differences in financial planning between different socioeconomic groups

[50:40]: The perpetuation of poverty cycles due to lack of financial resources

[56:52]: The impact of single-parent households on ancestral wisdom

[59:50]: Research findings on poverty's impact on brain development

[01:02:55]: The impact of financial stress on decision-making and self-worth

[01:08:43]: Importance of holistic healing in financial trauma

[01:16:37]: Recognizing and adapting money archetypes

[01:18:07]: Explanation of shadow and golden archetypes

[01:19:32]: Book promotion and availability information

[01:38:30] : Closing remarks and additional resources offered

 

 Notable Quotes

 

1. "A huge part of healing money trauma is also understanding how systemic oppression has impacted our nervous systems so that we can actually heal from that impact as well."
2. "Families under oppression develop a survival mindset. They tend to prioritise immediate needs over long-term planning for many reasons."
3. "Poverty trauma can have a negative impact on children's brain development."
4. "Stress makes it difficult for us to focus on long-term goals and can impact our sense of personal power and self-worth." 
5. "We need to take into account how historical and cultural impacts of systemic oppression impact us."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 124: Protecting Your Finances in Marriage: Why Women Need to Know the Law Before Saying 'I Do'

In this episode of the Money Magic podcast, Vangile Makwakwa sits down with Tebello Motshwane, an attorney specializing in family law with a focus on marriage. Tebello is also the founder of a platform called Sister-in-law, which is a platform dedicated to empowering women through legal education.

 

Tebello emphasizes the importance of understanding marriage contracts and financial arrangements before marriage. She highlights the dangers of being married in community of property in South Africa, which can lead to shared liabilities and financial complications, advising instead to consider marriage out of community of property with or without accrual.

 

 

She stresses the importance of having an anti-nuptial contract to protect individual financial assets and liabilities.

 

Tebello also explains that couples should openly discuss finances, including debts, monthly commitments, and financial goals before marrying.

 

She explains that In South Africa, customary marriages, even without registration at Home Affairs, are legally binding. Proper legal procedures should be followed to dissolve such marriages to avoid future complications.

 

Tebello also advises being financially and emotionally prepared for the possibility of divorce, highlighting the importance of minimizing litigation costs and being aware of the emotional and financial impacts of transitioning from a dual-income to a single-income household.

 

This is another insightful episode.

Tune in!

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[02:19] – Vangile welcomes listeners

[03:42] - Introduction to Tebello Motshwane

[05:02] – Tebello’s background and mission

[07:30] – Tebello explains how she started Sister-in-law

[10:21] - Discussion on financial aspects of marriage

[14:00] - Questions to ask about finances before marriage

[19:05] - Differences between marriage regimes

[22:08] - Risks of being married in community of property

[27:32] - Cultural perceptions of marriage contracts

[33:02] - Legal implications of lobola

[37:17] - Legal dissolution of customary marriage

[41:06] - Clarification on unregistered customary marriages

[43:37] - Deal breakers in marriage discussions

[46:36] - Financial preparation for divorce

[49:19] - Removing shame from divorce processes

[51:07] - Insights on approaching marriage

[52:13 – Final words from Tebello

Contact Tebello:

https://www.instagram.com/sister_in_law_/

https://web.facebook.com/sisterinlawsa

sisterinlaw.co.za

 

 Notable Quotes

 

 

1. "It is so important to understand that who you marry is as important as how you get married because that affects your finances."
2. "I want to educate Black women on the importance of understanding how the law exists to serve them."
3. "When you're in a relationship, you should speak about money as often as possible because everything that you do as a couple requires money."
4. "Some of the conversations that couples should be having, first and foremost, is what are your monthly commitments?"
5. "If you're married in community of property, the bank is coming to take the house, they're not going to ask whose name it's in."
6. "When women are financially and legally empowered, it's actually society that benefits as a whole."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 123: Recognizing Financial Abuse: Breaking Free from Patterns of Control

In this week’s episode of the Money Magic Podcast, Vangile sits down with Brooke Kekos, an expert in helping women heal from abusive relationships, including financial abuse. 

 

Brooke shares her personal journey of enduring abuse from childhood that continued into her adult life, discussing the patterns of control and manipulation she experienced, particularly in financial matters.

In this podcast episode Brooke explains financial abuse as a form of control where one partner restricts access to financial resources, making the victim feel powerless. This can involve controlling spending, withholding money, or making financial decisions unilaterally.

 

She also shares her story of growing up with a controlling father and later entering a similar dynamic in her marriage, highlighting how familiarity with such patterns can trap individuals.

 

Brooke also discusses her experiences with religious trauma, having been raised in a cult. She details the impact of this on her sense of self and autonomy, drawing parallels to financial and emotional abuse.

The conversation emphasizes the importance of reclaiming autonomy, both financially and personally. Brooke talks about reconnecting with one's body and intuition through practices like meditation and yoga to heal from abuse.

 

Overall, the episode is a deep dive into the complexities of financial abuse and its intersection with other forms of trauma.

 

This is another insightful podcast.

Tune in!

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

 [02:08] – Introduction to Brooke Kekos

[04:36] - Brooke shares her personal story and background

[08:44] - Brooke talks about the control dynamics in her family and her past relationship

[11:33] - Examples of financial control and how it manifests in relationships

[12:52] - How financial abuse is identified and the importance of autonomy in financial decisions

[18:16] - Identifying happiness in relationships and advocating for oneself financially

[21:00] - The value of leaving an abusive situation early for better opportunities in the future

[27:26] - The journey from survival to thriving by connecting with the body and intuition

[31:13] - The guilt and shame associated with religious trauma, especially around sexuality

[36:43] - How disconnection from the body affects decision-making and financial autonomy

[39:59] - Meditation and yoga as tools for reconnecting with the body and healing

[46:10] - The importance of releasing trauma stored in the body through yoga

[50:52] - The importance of curiosity and exploring new belief systems

[56:17] - The importance of support and community for healing and achieving goals

[01:02:22] – Contact Brooke:

Website: https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/

https://www.instagram.com/brookekekos

https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100075036248909&_rdc=1&_rdr

 

 Notable Quotes

 

 

1.       "Our nervous system will choose a familiar situation over something that is not known."
2.       "I think a lot of the times people come into relationships where they have this dynamic because of how patriarchy has happened."
3.       "The brain hates the unknown, the nervous system hates the unknown. It's going to keep us trapped where we're at."
4.       "When we're not connected to the body, I think that we're dissociated from life."
5.       “You get to be curious. Even if it's scary, take that leap. Trust that nudge that says, something doesn't feel good to me."

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 122: From struggling artist to recognition and fame

In this week’s episode of the Money Magic Podcast, Vangile sits down with Tshepang Ramoba, a musician, artist, and podcast editor.

 

The conversation delves into Tshepang's journey with money, his experiences as a rock star, and his struggles with financial management. He shares insights into his upbringing, how he learned about money, and the impact of his family's financial habits on his own.

 

Tshepang discusses how past struggles and trauma affected his ability to manage and hold onto money. He highlights the importance of addressing subconscious beliefs and behaviors related to money.

 

He also emphasizes the significance of budgeting and how it has helped him manage his finances better, especially in his projects.

 

The conversation touches on the importance of healing and self-care. Tshepang talks about the role of meditation, tapping, and other healing practices in improving his financial situation and overall well-being.

 

Tshepang also shares his journey of learning to balance generosity with maintaining boundaries, ensuring that his relationships with others and money are healthy and sustainable.

 

He discusses the importance of celebrating achievements, which helps to reinforce positive financial behaviors and attract more abundance.

 

This is another insightful podcast.

 

Tune in!

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

 

[02:20] - Introduction to Tshepang

[05:14] – Tshepang discusses his purpose and work

[07:00] -Discussion on music and podcast editing

[10:04] – Tshepang’s experience with money and spending habits

[14:00] - Life as a musician and financial struggles

[21:19] - Band financial issues and resolution

[23:22] - Building a relationship with money

[27:31] – From struggling artist to recognition

[29:04] - Early struggles and perseverance

[37:21] - Transition to fame and visibility

[44:57] - Impact of trauma on financial habits

[51:21] - Discussing money in relationships

[56:55] - Budgeting and financial planning

[01:02:12] - Paying off debts and financial habits

[01:11:58] - Lessons learned about money

[01:18:47] - Celebrating financial success safely

[01:20:26] - Importance of pleasure and balance

[01:23:43] – Contact Tshepang:

Website: postpost.co.za

Instagram and Facebook: Tshepang Ramoba

 

 Notable Quotes

 

 

1. "I really feel like... I know I've been searching for myself for a long time, so I know that I am sent. I was sent to this world to heal, basically."
2. "When you help people with anything, I feel like that's healing, you know."
3. "I've realized that when you don't have a good relationship with money, just using your money, however your relationships are also like shaky."
4. "Meditation helps me with that. So that's my second lesson, by the way."
5. "The biggest number one shift, the budgeting. Because, even if you have like a little bit of money, and you know that your money is not enough for everything that you have to pay for."
6. "Sometimes when I do something really good, I do something for myself, you know, even if it's a small thing."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 121: How Family Dynamics Shape Our Relationship With Money

In this week’s podcast of the Money Magic Podcast, Vangile shares the first of her seven-part What's Your Money Personality? Masterclasses.

 

In the class she explores how financial behaviors and patterns are passed down through generations. This class focused on how ancestral money trauma influences our nervous systems, emotional responses, and attitudes toward money.

 

She discusses how family dynamics, co-regulation, and inherited beliefs create unconscious patterns around spending, saving, and earning.

 

She also looked at the impact of dysregulated nervous systems on financial behaviors and how trauma from previous generations manifests in the way we approach money today.

Tune in. 

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[02:08] – Introduction to the masterclass

[06:37] – Vangile shares personal financial experiences

[09:34] - Discussion on family dynamics and financial habits

[12:22] - Explanation of trauma and its impact

[15:25] - Childhood trauma and financial behavior

[18:24] - Introduction to ancestral trauma

[21:24] - Trauma's intergenerational effects

[27:19] - The impact of upbringing on financial decisions

[36:58] - Importance of nervous system regulation

[46:18] - Impact of sibling relationships on financial behavior

[49:19] - Recognizing and understanding financial patterns

[53:13] - Explanation of mirroring and rebelling against patterns

[57:03] - Audience interaction and advice on financial behavior

[01:00:07] – The impact of family structure on financial literacy

[01:08:19] - Conclusion and final thoughts on family dynamics

[01:11:02] - Information on purchasing the book and coaching services

[01:12:27] - Audience questions and wrap-up

 

 Notable Quotes

 

1.       “Money affects not just us as individuals, but the people around us."
2.       "Trauma is also the small things that happen to us."
3.       "When we feel unsafe, when we have money, we feel anxious. Our nervous system becomes dysregulated."
4.       "How families communicate about money can significantly influence financial behaviour."
5.       "By understanding our family connections and why we behave the way we do, we can make better financial choices."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 120: Wealth, Wounds, and the Lower Chakras: A Journey into Financial and Sexual Healing

In this week’s podcast of the Money Magic Podcast, Vangile sits down with Brittany Williams, who discusses her work in facilitating freedom, particularly as a sex doula focusing on lower chakras. 

 

Brittany highlights the importance of addressing trauma, which often hides in one's sexuality, and how this can manifest in various life aspects, including financial behaviors. She delves into unconventional paths, such as anal consciousness and placenta work, to explore the nuances of trauma and its impact on one's life.

Brittany shares personal experiences of her health challenges and how understanding her lineage helped her navigate and transform those aspects of her life.

 

Brittany also discusses the significance of understanding the placenta's role and how it connects generations, carrying ancestral experiences that shape one's current life. She advocates for accessing the energetics of the placenta to gain insights into one's lineage and personal history. 

 

The conversation also explores the importance of breaking systemic patterns, especially in marginalized communities, to create a better future for subsequent generations. Brittany emphasizes the need for individuals to develop the acumen to hold and grow wealth, rather than just having access to it.

 

This is another insightful episode. 

Tune in. 

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

[02:24] – Introduction to Brittany Williams

[03:35] - Brittany discusses her soul's journey and roles in life.

[05:14] - Trauma manifesting in money and sexuality.

[09:49] - Brittany explains the significance of the placenta.

[15:10] - Brittany talks about her family’s health patterns.

[20:52] - Accessing the placenta energetically.

[23:20] - Meditation practices related to the placenta.

[28:36] - The connection between fibroids and ancestral behavior.

[34:51] - Brittany shares her genealogy and its impact on her life.

[41:38] – The difference between proximity and access.

[48:20] - The acumen of understanding how to hold things.

[53:51] - Shifts in relationships with money and time.

[55:53] - Anal consciousness and its significance.

[59:10] - Identity level release and sexual trauma.

[01:03:08] - How anal consciousness affects vocal expression.

[01:09:41] - Exploring pleasure and prosperity through release.

[01:11:49] – Contact Brittany: https://www.instagram.com/thee_brittanyrwilliams/ or https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=23421550 

 

 Notable Quotes

 

1. "I noticed one thing is that money was where people's trauma went to manifest itself, but the sexuality was where people's trauma went to hide."
2. "Your placenta is basically your motherboard for your humanity as you came into this Earth."
3. "Our sacral space is holding so much of our personal history and our personal experiences."
4. "The placenta is taking up the chemistry of the wound carrier as they move through life."
5. "I think that the way that we accelerate that human experience is understanding the going past access and getting into the acumen and learning how to hold it."
6. "Luxury is about a facilitation and a receiving. But pleasure happens when you have that both when you have the receiving and you have the release."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 119: The Life-Changing Impact of Sexual Pleasure on Personal and Financial Growth

In this week’s episode of the #MoneyMagic Podcast, Vangile Makwakwa sits with Naomi Harris, an expert in sexual pleasure and empowerment, to discuss women's issues around sexual pleasure, orgasm, and healing ancestral trauma. 

 

Naomi shares her journey of self-discovery, highlighting her personal struggles with sexual pleasure and the transformative impact of addressing these issues. The conversation delves into the significance of exploring one's own body, understanding the importance of sexual pleasure, and the societal pressures that often limit women's experiences. 

 

Naomi emphasizes the need for women to reclaim their sexual power and embrace their bodies without shame.

 

The discussion also explores the connection between sexual pleasure and financial well-being, suggesting that the ability to experience and embrace pleasure can positively influence other aspects of life, including financial abundance.

 

Naomi shares insights on how societal norms and patriarchal structures shape women's perceptions of sexuality and pleasure, often leading to suppressed desires and unmet needs. The conversation encourages women to question these narratives and understand the profound impact of pleasure on overall quality of life.

This is another insightful episode. 

Tune in. 

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

 [02:47] – Introduction to Naomi Harris

[06:42] - Naomi's journey into understanding her sexuality

[08:53] - Female sexuality research and societal issues

[10:56] - Societal expectations and personal identity

[16:59.9] - The importance of self-ownership in pleasure

[18:21] - Explanation of female arousal and health

[22:29] - How women can recognize full arousal

[27:05] – The effect of trauma on sexuality

[29:40] - How first sexual experiences shape expectations

[33:57] - How pleasure relates to money and relationships

[40:00] - Centering pleasure in life

[45:55] - The effect of centering pleasure on finances

[49:32] - The power of breathwork in healing

[53:16] - Creating safe spaces for healing in relationships

[57:09] - The importance of a regulated nervous system for creating safe spaces

[01:01:05] – Contact Naomi: https://www.thepleasurenaturopath.com/ or https://www.instagram.com/_sensualfreedom_

 

 Notable Quotes

 

1. "As a soul, I am an adventurer, a traveler, and a deep diver into life. I really, really, really want to explore life and find out about it."
2. "I started healing and really looking at who I was and what my stories around sex were and what my body was doing."
3. "We're constantly being told who we are in really subtle ways and also really just overt, you are this thing, ways and in relationships as well."
4. "For most of us, I think sexuality is actually something a little bit more precious and a little bit more inside and a little bit more contained."
5. "What does sex mean to you? What does pleasure mean to you? What does pleasure feel like? What does orgasm feel like?"
6. "We need to have a regulated nervous system in order to feel full pleasure in the body."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/ 

Episode 118: Resilience in Property Development and Finance: Lessons from Khanyi Makhaya

In this week’s episode of the #MoneyMagic Podcast, sits down with Khanyi Makhaya who discusses her journey as an investor and student of the Money Magic course. She shares her background in banking and finance and her transition to teaching and property development.

 

Khanyi emphasizes the importance of understanding one's soul and emotional patterns to improve financial outcomes. She highlights the significance of addressing emotional and spiritual aspects in financial matters, which she learned through her experiences in the corporate world and personal life.

 

Khanyi reflects on her upbringing, experiences in the corporate world, and the impact of her educational background. She discusses the challenges of managing debt while working in the banking sector and the lack of discussions on generational wealth building.

 

She also shares her insights on the importance of emotional intelligence and resilience in property development and the necessity of doing inner work to transform one's relationship with money.

 

She also discusses the importance of building supportive communities and networks, especially for women and people of colour. Khanyi also talks about the tangible shifts she experienced after joining the Money Magic course, such as understanding her financial behaviours and breaking patterns of over-giving. She expresses gratitude for the course's community and resources, which helped her address her emotional and financial challenges.

 

This is another insightful episode. 

Tune in. 

 

During this episode, you will learn about:

 

 

[02:08] - Introduction to Khanyi Makhaya

 

[07:37] - Khanyi’s passion for her work in property and training

 

[10:46] - Reflection on personal values and money

 

[12:08] - Discussion on the sweet one archetype and people-pleasing

 

[18:32] - Lessons learned in corporate and personal management

 

[23:03] - Generational wealth and leaving a legacy

 

[28:38] - Reflections on school networks and their impact

 

[33:43] - Gender dynamics and corporate environments

 

[39:50] - How buying love affects financial decisions

 

[44:11] - The God wound and its personal impact

 

[52:52] - Tangible shifts and tools used in financial journey

 

[56:42] - Meditations and ancestral trauma healing

 

[59:09] - Importance of structured learning vs. free resources

 

[01:03:20] - Importance of addressing subconscious issues

 

[01:10:23] - Approach to money and relationships

 

[01:15:58] - Boundaries and relationships

 

[01:16:16] - Contact Khanyi: https://web.facebook.com/khanyi.makhaya 

 Notable Quotes

1. "I think when we rescue people too easily, we also rob them of an opportunity to grow."
2. “The training that we really need in the beginning is how can we manage ourselves in the world? Not how can we manage the job."
3. " I think we don't fully understand the cost of ignorance. It's easy to look and say, Well, it's a lot of money, but how much has ignorance cost us?”
4. "What I can say is that there really is a great need to build the emotional stamina."
5. "I wish I'd been told that I was enough, that I didn't have to perform for love."

 

Additional money trauma resources:

 

One on One Coaching: https://www.wealthy-money.com/coaching 

Money Magic course: https://www.wealthy-money.com/moneymagic 

7 Day Tapping into Ancestral Money Wisdom Training: https://wealthy-money.com/training

Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vangilemakwakwa/